This idea comes back to me every time I encounter a difficult apple and his unconditional positive regard for whatever he feels strongly about. This guy is easy to point out because he is always the one with really strong points of view and a stiff knowledge of his favored side of an argument. He is always right, the other person is always right. This is due to his problematic cause of action, and a lack of respect for both sides of an argument.
This is a great illustration of a lot of the people that argue with me over things I don't care about. They feel like they are this girl trapped under the bag and laying on the couch of society; the government, or big business, and I'm just a cat on the arm rest wondering why you're laying under that plastic. You're making your own self inflicted prison and laying in it. It's not that I don't understand you its just that I don't care to entertain your argument. Why? Because you are not arguing in the right way.
The reason a Lobbyist is able to distract attention from whom he is defending is because he doesn't waste time trying to prove the other persons' argument wrong. In contrast, he finds a way to make the other person agree with him about something. If the other person is wrong, then he has to be right. this makes it so that no matter what the conflict, he is arguing in a calming way that encourages you to let down your guard put down your sword and agree. Why? Because he found a way to agree, so you can too. Think about this next time you're on one of your rants in class about what is wrong with the world and no one seems to be listening. If you want to be heard, be appealing. If you want to be respected, be respectful.
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